Feminism is a Joke

[Author's Note: This post is adapted from an entry I wrote a year ago. You are free to disagree, but do it nicely.]

Gone are the days during the introduction of feminism where its activists burnt their clothes in order to demand a larger piece of the cake. Nowadays, feminism is still very much alive, and as with all things, some people will remain apathetic, some will fight with their lives, some will fight for their lives, and some will come up with more politically correct terms for 'feminism', like 'gender equality'. Thus begins a flood of women in the workplace, all eager to shed their aprons and housework. Thus men begin filling in those empty spaces, and the 'feminists' are left feeling triumphant thinking they've done something good in contribution to womanhood.

But it's not meant to be this way. Never meant to. Men and women, in their intrinsic nature, are made very differently with differing intelligence suited for differing skills. There is one thing in particular that men don't do well, that is matters pertaining to the heart. I've always noticed how my dad would always talk 'on the surface'. How I look lords over how I feel. Generally men are made like that -- superficial. And unless he has the conscious mind to make the conscious effort to develop himself, he can never fill in the shoes of a 'mother'. But these are rare finds.

What's the lowliness in being a housewife? My mum is one. I love her to bits but what makes me love her so? It's because she takes the time to understand my feelings, and sometimes seems to be able to complete my thoughts before i even say it. This, a man can't do. [Author's Note: My mum works now. However, that doesn't falsify the central idea, which is why do some women attach a negative perception on being housewives?]

I've brought myself down spending days contemplating why men are made with this 'emotional deficiency', why they can go through life practically numb and not feeling anything, not really caring for anything. Whereas on the other end of the scale, women take great pains to look good, take great pains to please and endure great pains in every step of childhood development.

I have a [work] colleague here who just became a mother. Despite having to care for the child and having to bring him to the clinic every so often for vaccinations, she still drags herself to the office everyday, looking as dishevelled day-by-day.

My mum agrees with me that leaving the child at the care of someone else and the mother coming to work, is an irresponsible act. Whether the father is with the child or not wouldn't change or matter much, because as I said, men generally have this 'emotional deficiency' that they don't realize. And even if they do, can't get over it. Please don't let the man do it for the sake of your children.

I believe if the man earns enough to give the family a decent living, why should the woman work too? I say, when the child grows up well-nurtured and grateful, thanks to his mum, that's the greatest reward to have; more than she could ever earn by adding a prefix to her already honourable occupation: 'Working...'

That's why I've always felt women are the real force that brings the home and family together, and they should concentrate their efforts on this. Not to be pressured and stressed out over work and to gossip over work-related issues that would only serve no purpose other than destroying the perfect soul in every woman.

So what do you call this uniting force? Who cares what labels we give it? Labels are only words. Words are only creations of humans. And humans are bound by the words they create. Housewives? They're much more than that!

According to my mum also, and this should be taken as an individual opinion, women who work do so because they are incapable and inept at raising the child, or feel they are such. They regard their child, or god forbid, children as playthings when she returns from home on evenings.

Based on my discussions with my guy friends over the years, most guys prefer girls who are submissive. We can't have two strong people in a union. They'd blow each others heads off! So girls, take heed, you don't have to be misled by feminism extremists who feel they're fighting a cause but are in reality take the course backwards.

You're blessed with so much guys know they can't do. So don't be derailed by labels, don't despair due to words and don't surrender yourself to the cold office rooms. To all housewives out there, you're doing a great job already. Keep up the great work! And mum, I love you so much.